{"id":218,"date":"2013-05-17T18:07:39","date_gmt":"2013-05-17T09:07:39","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/catatanstefano.wordpress.com\/?p=218"},"modified":"2013-05-17T18:07:39","modified_gmt":"2013-05-17T09:07:39","slug":"7-perlakuan-dari-orang-lain-yang-tidak-boleh-kita-tolerir-2","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/catatanstefano.ddns.net\/?p=218","title":{"rendered":"7 Perlakuan Dari Orang Lain Yang Tidak Boleh Kita Tolerir"},"content":{"rendered":"

It is better to be alone than in bad company.<\/p>\n<\/blockquote>\n

Your dignity may be attacked, ravaged and disgracefully mocked, but it can never be taken away unless you willingly surrender it.\u00a0 It\u2019s all about finding the strength to defend your boundaries.<\/p>\n

The manipulators of the world will test you from time to time to see if you bend.\u00a0 Don\u2019t let them intimidate you.\u00a0 When you catch them pushing on you, push back.\u00a0 All it takes is once, and if they get away with pushing you around that once \u2013 if they know they can treat you like that \u2013 then it sets the pattern for the future.<\/p>\n

You are stronger than them!\u00a0 Stick up for yourself and stop tolerating\u2026<\/p>\n

1.\u00a0 Bullying.<\/strong><\/p>\n

Bulling is not OK.\u00a0 Period.\u00a0 There is no freedom on Earth that gives someone the right to assault who you are as a person.\u00a0 Sadly, some people just won\u2019t be happy until they\u2019ve pushed your ego to the ground and stomped on it.\u00a0 What you have to do is have the nerve to stand your ground.\u00a0 Don\u2019t give them any leeway.\u00a0 Nobody has the power to make you feel small unless you give them that power.<\/p>\n

It takes a great deal of courage to stand up to your enemies, but just as much to stand up to your family and friends.\u00a0 Sometimes bullying comes from the most unlikely places.\u00a0 Be cognizant of how the people closest to you treat you, and look out for the subtle jabs they throw.\u00a0 When necessary, confront them \u2013 whatever it takes to give yourself the opportunity to grow into who you really are.<\/p>\n

2.\u00a0 Physical abuse of any kind.<\/strong><\/p>\n

If you have survived the wrath of a physical abuser, and you tried to reconcile things\u2026 If you forgave, and you struggled, and even if the expression of your grief had you succumb to outbursts of anger\u2026 If you spent years hanging on to the notions of trust and faith, even after you knew in your heart that those beautiful intangibles, upon which love is built and sustained, would never be returned\u2026 And especially, if you stood up as the barrier between an abuser and someone else, and took the brunt of the abuse in their place\u2026<\/p>\n

You are a HERO.<\/p>\n

But now it\u2019s time to be the hero of your future.\u00a0 Enough is enough!<\/p>\n

3.\u00a0 Supporting hatred.<\/strong><\/p>\n

As Gandhi once said, \u201cAn eye for an eye will only make the whole world blind.\u201d<\/p>\n

Regardless of how despicable another has acted, never let hate build in your heart.\u00a0 Fighting hatred with hatred only hurts you more.\u00a0 When you decide to hate someone you automatically begin digging two graves: one for your enemy and one for yourself.<\/p>\n

Hateful grudges are for those who insist that they are owed something.\u00a0 Forgiveness, on the other hand, is for those who are strong enough and smart enough to move on.\u00a0 After all, the best revenge is to be unlike the person who hurt you.\u00a0 The best revenge is living well, in a way that creates peace in your heart.<\/p>\n

4.\u00a0 Negativity.<\/strong><\/p>\n

There are plenty of people in this world who will be generous when sharing their negativity and ignorance.\u00a0 And while they may seem quite eager to feed you their rubbish, please remember it\u2019s not the diet you need.\u00a0 You need positivity.\u00a0 So be cautious with whom you let feed your mind and soul.\u00a0 Do not let the negative opinions of others destroy your inner spirit.<\/p>\n

Throughout your life you will meet two kinds of people: those who are a drain on your energy and dreams, and those who give you the energy to pursue your dreams.\u00a0 Avoid the first kind and cherish the second.<\/p>\n

5.\u00a0 Lies.<\/strong><\/p>\n

If someone fools you once, shame on them.\u00a0 If someone fools you twice, shame on you.<\/p>\n

If you catch someone lying to you, speak up.\u00a0 Some people will lie to you repeatedly in a vicious effort to get you to repeat their lies over and over until they effectively become true.\u00a0 Don\u2019t partake in their nonsense.\u00a0 Don\u2019t let their lies be your reality.<\/p>\n

Remember, an honest adversary is always better than a friend who lies.\u00a0 Pay less attention to what people say, and more attention to what they do.\u00a0 Their actions will show you the truth.<\/p>\n

6.\u00a0 Disparaging remarks about your potential.<\/strong><\/p>\n

Never let someone\u2019s opinion of you wash away your truth.\u00a0 Never sacrifice who you are or what you aspire to be because someone else sees things differently.<\/p>\n

Sometimes even your closest confidants will carelessly crush your potential with smiles on their faces.\u00a0 They will discredit your ideas, exhibiting zero emotional support, and inadvertently persuade you to forget part of the person you are, along with the person you are capable of becoming.<\/p>\n

Don\u2019t let weak minds convince you that you aren\u2019t strong enough.\u00a0 You are.<\/p>\n

7.\u00a0 Attempts to decide for you.<\/strong><\/p>\n

When you feel out of control or a little lost it can be tempting to look for someone willing to take charge of your life for you, just to alleviate the pressure.\u00a0 But before you do consider this: if you put a collar around your own neck and hand the leash to someone else, you\u2019ll have no say about where they lead you in life.<\/p>\n

When it comes to exercising your inner genius, you must listen to your inner voice.\u00a0 Try what you want to try, go where you want to go and explore the depths of your own intuition.\u00a0 Don\u2019t accept false choices just because someone else doesn\u2019t feel what you feel.\u00a0 Don\u2019t let others leash your dreams and your future.\u00a0 If something feels right, it probably is.\u00a0 Give yourself the fair chance you deserve.<\/p>\n

Final Thoughts<\/u><\/p>\n

This is your life.\u00a0 You may not be able to control all the things people do to you, but you can decide not to be reduced by them.\u00a0 You can decide not to let their actions and opinions invade your heart and mind.\u00a0 And above all, you can decide whom to walk beside into tomorrow, and whom to leave behind today.<\/p>\n

Sumber : Marc and Angel<\/a><\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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