Ringkasan saja: Dr. Richard Teo Keng Siang adalah seorang ‘biasa’ yg berjuang, bekerja keras dan
sukses luar biasa sebagai dokter kecantikan, kaya luar biasa. Di usia 40 tahun, single, dia punya segalanya: ketenaran, kekayaan, cakep dan dia rajin fitnes juga (6x seminggu/tiap hari). Waktu dia diajak ke gereja dia akan bilang: “saya sangat sibuk di pagi hari, suruh gereja itu undurkan kebaktiannya menjadi jam 2, baru saya datang”. Dia arogan sekali
karena dia merasa punya uang, punya segalanya..
Dia bilang begini: coba saja, apa yg Tuhan bisa. lakukan untuk membuat aku pergi ke gereja
Maret 2012, dia lagi fitness, dia merasa gak enak di punggung, singkatnya (ntar baca yah) dia kena kanker stadium 4 langsung, dia kaget banget dan ga percaya. Pertama-tama dia menyangkal dan
menyalahkan Tuhan, kenapa disaat2 TOP nya dia kok Tuhan beri itu. Akhirnya dia sadar, hanya itu 1-1nya cara Tuhan untuk membuat dia mengerti dan bersaksi.
16 oct 2012 kemarin dia meninggal dunia di usia 40 tahun. Tapi kesaksiannya yang direkam
dan disebarkan oleh teman2 ikatan dokter kristen di Singapore, menyadarkan banyak orang kalo uang tanpa Tuhan itu kosong, HIDUP TANPA TUHAN itu sia2.
Recorded at the Dental Christian Fellowship , on 24 Nov 2011, 8 months after his diagnosis.
Richard would have liked to share this with you. We are doing this to continue his work.
Please have a read and leave it behind for someone else to benefit from his sharing.
If you would like a copy, please let any of his family or close friends know and we will be able to provide both the audio recording as well as the transcript.
Thank you, and may God bless you richly.
Below is the transcript of the talk of Dr. Richard Teo, who was a 40-year-old millionaire and cosmetic surgeon with a stage-4 lung cancer, sharing at a Dental Christian Fellowship Meeting. He would have liked to share this with you too.
HIS BACKGROUND
Hi good morning to all of you. My voice is a bit hoarse from the chemotherapy, so please bear with me. I thought I’ll just introduce myself. My name is Richard, Iâm a friend of Dannyâs, who invited me here.
Iâd just begin to say that Iâm a typical product of todayâs society. Before this, I was talking about how the media influences us etc. So Iâm a typical product of what the media portrays. From young, Iâve always been under the influence and impression that to be happy, is to be successful. And to be successful, is to be wealthy. So I led my life according to this motto.
Coming from a poor average family, back in those days, I was highly competitive, whether in sports, studies, leadership. I wanted it all. Iâve been there, done that. But at the end of the day, itâs still about money.
So in my recent last years, I was a trainee in ophthalmology, but I was getting impatient, cos I had friends of mine who were going out into private practise, making tonnes of money. And there I was, stuck in a traineeship. So I said, âEnough, itâs getting too long.â At that time, there was a surge in protĂ©gĂ©s of aesthetic medicine. Iâm sure youâre aware, aesthetic medicine had peaked over the last few years, and I saw good money in there. So much so that I said, âForget about ophthalmology, Iâm gonna do aesthetic medicine.â So thatâs what I did.
The truth is, nobody makes heroes out of the average GP in the neighbourhood. They don’t. They make heroes out of rich celebrities, politicians, rich and famous people. So I wanted to be one of these. I dived straight into aesthetic medicine. People were not willing to pay when I was doing locum back in those days. Anything more than $30, they would complain that âWah, this lo kun (doctor) jing qwee (very expensive)â. They made noise and they were not happy. But the same people were willing to pay $10 000 for a liposuction. So I said, âWell, letâs stop healing the sick, Iâm gonna become a beautician; a medically-trained beautician.â
And that was what I did â liposuction, breast augmentation, eyelid surgeries, you name it, we do it. It was very good money. My clinic, when we started off, waiting time was 1 week; 1 month; became 2 months; became 3 months. There was so much demand that people were literally queuing up to have aesthetic work done on them. Vain women â easy life!
So the clinic grew. I was so overwhelmed, from 1 doctor, I employed 2, then 3, then 4 doctors, and carried on. Nothing is ever enough. I wanted more and more and more. So much so that we set up shop in Indonesia to lure all the Indonesian tai taiâs. We set up shop, set up a team of people there, to get more Indonesian patients to come in.
So, things were doing well. Iâm there, my time has arrived.
Around some time in February last year, I said, âOK, I have so much spare cash, itâs time to get my first Ferrari. So there I was, getting ready for the deposit. âOK! There comes my first Ferrari!â I was looking for land, to share with some of my friends. I have a banker friend who makes $5 million a year. So I thought, âCome, letâs come together. Letâs buy some land and build our houses.â
I was at my prime, getting ready to enjoy. At the same time, my friend Danny had a revival. They were going back to church, some of my close friends. They told me, âRichard, come, join us, come back to church.â
I have been a Christian for 20 years; I was baptised 20 years ago, but it was because it was fashionable to be a Christian then. All my friends were becoming Christians then. It was fashionable! I wanted to be baptised, so that when I filled in a form, I could put there âChristianâ â feels good. In truth, I had never had a bible; I donât know what the bible is all about.
I went to church for a while, after some time, I got tired. I said itâs time to go to NUS, stop going to church. I had a lot more things to pursue in NUS â girls, studies, sports etc. After all, I had achieved all these things without God today, so who needs God? I myself can achieve anything I want.
In my arrogance, I told them, âYou know what? You go tell your pastor to change your sermon to 2pm. I will consider coming to church.â Such arrogance! And I said 1 statement in addition to that â till date, I donât know Iâve regretted saying that â I told Danny and my friends, âIf God really wanted me to come back to church, He will give me a sign.â. Lo and behold, 3 weeks later, I was back at church.
THE DIAGNOSIS
In March 2011, out of the blues â I was still running around, âcause Iâm a gym freak and I always go to the gym training, running, swimming 6 days a week. I had some backache, and thatâs all I had, but it was persistent. And so I went for an MRI to exclude prolapsed disc. And the day before I had my scan, I was still in the gym, lifting heavy weights, doing my squats. And the next day, they found that half my spine had bone marrow replacement. I said, âWoah, sorry, whatâs that?â
We had a PET scan the next day, and they diagnosed that I had terminal lung cancer, stage 4B. It had spread to the brain, half the spine, whole of my lungs were filled with tumour, liver, adrenalsâŠ
I said, âCanât be, I was just at the gym last night, whatâs going on?â Iâm sure you know how it feels â though Iâm not sure if you know how it feels. One moment I was there at the peak, the next day, this news came and I was totally devastated. My whole world just turned upside down.
I couldnât accept it. I have a hundred relatives on both sides, my mom and my dad. 100 of them. And not a single one has cancer. To me, in my mind, I have good genes, Iâm not supposed to be having this! Some of my relatives are heavy chain smokers. Why am I having lung cancer? I was in denial.
HIS ENCOUNTER WITH GOD
So the next day, I was still in a state of denial, still unable to accept what was going on. There I was lying in an operating theatre in a hospital, for a needle biopsy (for histology). There I was, just completed the biopsy, and lying in the operating theatre. The nurses and doctors had left; told me I had to wait for 15 minutes to do a check X-ray to make sure thereâs no pneumothorax (a complication).
And there I was, lying on the operating table, staring blankly at the ceiling in a cold, quiet operating theatre. Suddenly I just heard an inner voice; it was not like coming from outside. It was inside. This small inner voice that I had never felt before. And it said very specifically, it said, âThis has to happen to you, at your prime, because itâs the only way you can understand.â
I said, âWoah, why did that come from?â You know, when you speak to yourself, youâd say, âOK, what time should I leave this place? Where shall I have dinner after this?â Youâd speak from a first person point of view. You donât say, âWhere should YOU go after this?â Whereas the voice that came spoke as a third party. It said, âThis has to happen to YOU, at YOUR prime, because this is the only way YOU can understand.â At that time, my emotions just overflowed and I broke down and cried, alone there. And I knew then, subsequently, what it means to understand that why this is the only way.
Because I had been so proud of myself, my whole life, I needed nobody else. I was gifted with things that I could do, why do I need anybody else? I was just so full of myself that there was no other way I could have turned back to God.
In fact, if I were diagnosed with stage 1 or 2, I would have been looking around busily for the best cardiothoracic surgeon, remove a section of the lobe (do a lobectomy), do preventive chemotherapyâŠThe chances of it being cured is extremely high. Who needs God? But I had stage 4B. No man can help, only God can.
A series of events happened after that. I wasnât sold after that, because of the inner voice, I became believing, prayers, all that. No I wasnât. To me, it was just âmaybe there was a voice; or maybe that was just me talking to myself.â I didnât buy the story.
What happened next was that I was being prepared for chemotherapy. I started off with a whole brain radiation therapy first; takes about 2 -3 weeks. In the meantime they prepared me for chemotherapy, supplements etc. One of the things they used for chemo was a thing called Zometa. Zometa – they use it to strengthen the bones; once the bone marrow (replacement) is cured of cancer cells, it becomes hollow, so we need Zometa to strengthen the bone to prevent compression fractures.
One of the side effects of Zometa is that it can cause osteonecrosis (bone death) of the jaw, and I had to have my wisdom teeth removed. Years ago, I had my upper wisdom teeth removed, cos it was giving me trouble. The lower ones didnât give me trouble so I said, âForget it, just leave it.â So of cause, Danny volunteered to remove it for me.
So there I was, lying there in a dental chair, asking myself, suffering all the side effects of radiotherapy, and now I have to go through wisdom tooth surgery. As if Iâve not had enough to suffer! So I asked Danny, âEh, bro, is there any other way? Can I not go though this?â He said, âYes, you can pray.â
I said, âWhatâs there to lose? Ok lah, pray lah!â And so we prayed. And we did an X-ray after that. Everything was all there, all the appliances and everything. And lo and behold, the Xray showed that there was no wisdom teeth in the lower jaw. I know most people have 4 wisdom teeth, maybe some have none, but to be missing one or 2, as I understand â Iâm not too sure, as I understand â is not that common.
Still I was, âNah, I donât care about that.â To me, as long as I didnât have to take out the tooth, I was happy. At that point, I still wasnât sold on prayers. Maybe it was just a coincidence â for whatever itâs worth.
I continued meeting my oncologist, asking him, âHow long do I have?â I asked him. He said, not more than 6 months. I said, âEven with chemotherapy?â About 3 â 4 months, he said.
I couldnât grasp that. It was difficult to come to terms. And even as I went through radiotherapy, I was struggling everyday, especially when I wake up, hoping that itâs just a nightmare; when I wake up, itâs all over.
As I was struggling, day after day, I went into depression, which is the typical denial, depression blah blah blah that you go through. But for 1 reason, I donât know why, there was this specific day that I was supposed to meet my oncologist. At about 2pm, I felt this sudden surge of peace, comfort, and in fact, a little happiness. It was just overflowing. For no rhyme or reason, it just came about 2pm, as I was getting ready, dressing up to meet my oncologist. So much so that I whats-apped all my friends that, âBros, I just feel so good suddenly! I donât know why, it just came!â
And it was only days, or was it weeks after, that Danny revealed to me that he had fasted for 2 days for me, and he was bargaining with God, and fasted for 2 dyas, and he ended his fast at that exact same point, about 2pm thereabouts, that this surge of sensation came to me for no rhyme or reason. And I didnât know that he was fasting for me. And when he ended the fast, I felt that sensation!
Whoa, things were getting a bit too coincidental. I was starting to buy a bit of the story, but still I wasnât sold. As days passed by, I completed my radiotherapy, about 2 weeks plus. Getting ready for chemo, so they let me rest for a few days.
See, the mortality rate of lung cancer : Lung cancer has the highest mortality rate. If you add up breast, colorectal (colon) cancer, and prostate cancer (the top few cancers in Singapore for men and women), if you add up the mortality rate of these 3, it still doesnât add up to lung cancer. Simply because, you understand, you can remove the prostate, the colon, the breast, but you cannot remove your lungs.
But thereâs about 10% of lung cancer patients who do pretty well for some reasons, because they have this specific mutation; we call it the EGFR mutation. And it happens, only 90% of the time, in Asian ladies who never smoked in their lives. Me, first of all, Iâm male. 2ndly, Iâm a social smoker. I take one a day after dinner; weekends, when my friends offer me, I take it as well. Iâm a light smoker, not a social smoker. But still, my oncologist was still not hopeful for me to have this mutation.
The chances of it happening for me was maybe 3-4% for me to get it. Thatâs why I was being primed to go for chemo. But through all the intense prayers, friends like Danny, people that I donât even know, it turned out that, during my waiting for chemo, the results came back that I was EGFR positive. I was like, âWoah, good news!â Cos now I donât have to undergo chemo at that time, because thereâs this oral tablet that you can use to control this disease.
Just to share with you some idea â this is a CT scan â thorax â of my lungs, before treatment.
AFTER BEFORE
Every single dot there is a tumour. You can see all the mets (metastasis) there. This is just one single plane. Literally I had it in both lungs, and I had literally tens of thousands of tumour. Thatâs why the oncologist told me, even with chemo, at most 3-4 months.
But because of this mutation, they have this oral medication. This is what happened after 2 months of treatment. As you can see over here; this is what God can do. And thatâs why Iâm still here having this opportunity to share with you. As you can see over here, the difference between before and after treatment.
At that point, I said, âWell, itâs to be expected, isnât it? The medicine is good.â Iâm still not buying the story. Well, the guys prayed for me and the tumour markers started to come down. 90% of the tumours were wiped out, and the tumour markers came down to more than 90% over the next few months.
But still, you know, once you have the clinical knowledge, you know the statistics. One year survival, two year survival; having all this knowledge is not a good thing. Cos you live with the knowledge that even with all this, the cancer cells are so unstable, they keep mutating. They will overcome and become resistant to the drugs, and eventually youâre gonna run out of medication.
So living with this knowledge is a huge mental struggle, a huge mental torture. Cancer is not just about a physical struggle, itâs a huge mental torture. How do you live with no hope? How do you live with not being able to plan for the next few years? The oncologist tells you to bear with it for the next 1 â 2 months. So itâs a lot of struggles as I went through: March, then April. April was my lowest point, in deep depression, struggling even as I was recovering.
HIS ACCEPTANCE & PEACE
And one of those days, I was there in bed, struggling in the afternoon, asking God, âWhy? Why do I have to go through this suffering? Why do I have to endure this hardship, this struggle? Why me?â
As I fell asleep, in my dreamy state, a vision just came, that says Hebrews 12:7-8.
Now mind you, at this time, I had not read the bible. I have no clue whatâs Hebrews, I donât even know how many chapters there are. Totally clueless.
But it says Hebrews 12:7-8, very specifically.
I didnât think too much of it. I just continued sleeping. Then I woke up, and I said, âWhatâs there to lose? Iâd just check it out lah!â Danny had bought me a bible; itâs still quite new. I said, âItâs ok, just try.â So I flipped to the Old Testament. Hebrews to me sounds like something ancient, so it should be in the Old Testament right? So I flipped through the Old Testament. No Hebrews there. I was so disappointed.
Then I said, âMaybe New Testament, letâs have a look!â. WOW â New Testament, thereâs Hebrewâs!! It says Hebrews 12:7-8. It says, âEndure hardship as discipline as God is treating you as His children.â
I said, âWAH!! Where did that come from?â I was getting goose pimples all over my body. I said, âThis canât be, right?â I mean, whatâs the chance of somebody, who has never read the bible, to have a vision of a chapter of a specific verse, that answers my question directly?
I think God called to me directly as I was there sleeping, struggling with it, asking God, âWhy do I have to suffer? Why do I have to suffer this?â And God says âEndure hardship as discipline as God is treating you as His child.â
At this point, the chance of that happening is even lesser than my EGFR being positive. Thereâs just no way; thereâs so many millions of thousands of verses in the bible, how can I just conjure up something like that?
So at that point, I was sold I said, âYOU WIN! YOU WIN!!â
Ok , I was convinced. And so from that day onwards, I started believing in my God. And the last time I heard that inner voice was the end of April. And that inner voice, same thing, in the afternoon, as I was sleeping (this time I wasnât struggling, just going to sleep). In a dreamy state I just heard Him say, âHelp others in hardship.â
It was more like a command, rather than a statement. And thatâs when I embarked on this journey, helping others in hardship. And I realised that hardship is not just about being poor. In fact, I think a lot of poor people are probably happier than a lot of us here. They are so easily contented with whatever they have, theyâre probably pretty happy.
Hardship can happen to rich people; it can be physical hardship, mental hardship, social, etc. And also over the last few months, I started to understand what this true joy is about. In the past, I substituted true joy with the pursuing of wealth. I thought true joy is about pursuing wealth. Why? Cos let me put it to you this way, in my death bed, I found no joy whatsoever in whatever objects I had â my Ferrari, thinking of the land I was going to buy to build my bungalow etc, having a successful business.
It brought me ZERO comfort, ZERO joy, nothing at all. Do you think I can hold onto this piece of metal and itâs going to give true joy? Nah, itâs not going to happen.
True joy comes from interaction with other people. And at a lot of times, it is a short term pride, the past. When you pursue your wealth, Chinese New Year is the best time to do it. Drive my Ferrari, show off to my relatives, show off to my friends, do my rounds, and then you thought that was true joy? You really think that those guys who sold you your Ferrari, they share their joy with you? And your relatives, wow, they share this joy with you? In truth, what you have done is just to illicit envy, jealousy, and even hatred. They are not sharing the joy with you, and what I have is that short-term pride that wow, I have something you donât have! And I thought that was joy!
So what we have is basically a short-term pride at the expense of somebody else. And that wasnât true joy. And I found no joy at all on my deathbed, thinking of my Ferrari â to hold on to it, sayang it?!?
True joy I discovered comes from interaction. Over the last few months I was so down. Interaction with my loved ones, my friends, my brothers in Christ, my sisters in Christ, and only then was I able to be motivated, able to be uplifted. To share your sorrow, to share your happiness â thatâs true joy.
And you know what makes you smile? True joy comes from helping others in hardship, and because Iâve gone through this, I know what hardship entails. In fact, thereâre some cancer patients who tell me a lot of times, people come up to them and tell them, âStay positive. Stay positive.â Yah, right. You come in my shoes and you try to stay positive! You donât know what youâre talking about!
But I have the licence. So Iâve been going out to meet other fellow cancer patients, to share with them, encourage them. And I know, because Iâve been through it, and itâs easier for me to talk to them.
And most importantly, I think true joy comes from knowing God. Not knowing about God â I mean, you can read the bible and know about God â but knowing God personally; getting a relationship with God. I think thatâs the most important. Thatâs what Iâve learnt.
So if I were to sum it up, Iâd say that the earlier we sort out the priorities in our lives, the better it is. Donât be like me â I had no other way. I had to learn it through the hard way. I had to come back to God to thank Him for this opportunity because Iâve had 3 major accidents in my past â car accidents. You know, these sports car accidents â I was always speeding , but somehow I always came out alive, even with the car almost being overturned. And I wouldnât have had a chance. Who knows, I donât know where else Iâd be going to! Even though I was baptised it was just a show, but the fact that this has happened, it gave me a chance to come back to God.
Few things Iâd learnt though:
1. Trust in the Lord your God with all your heart â this is so important.
2. Is to love and serve others, not just ourselves.
There is nothing wrong with being rich or wealthy. I think itâs absolutely alright, cos God has blessed. So many people are blessed with good wealth, but the trouble is I think a lot of us canât handle it. The more we have, the more we want. Iâve gone through it, the deeper the hole we dig, the more we get sucked into it, so much so that we worship wealth and lose focus. Instead of worshipping God, we worship wealth. Itâs just a human instinct. Itâs just so difficult to get out of it.
We are all professionals, and when we go into private practise, we start to build up our wealth â inevitably. So my thought are, when you start to build up wealth and when the opportunity comes, do remember that all these things donât belong to us. We donât really own it nor have rights to this wealth. Itâs actually Godâs gift to us. Remember that itâs more important to further His Kingdom rather than to further ourselves.
Anyway I think that Iâve gone through it, and I know that wealth without God is empty. It is more important that you fill up the wealth, as you build it up subsequently, as professionals and all, you need to fill it up with the wealth of God.
I think thatâs about it. Itâs good to share. Thanks.